Should I ban video games?

That is a family decision, and most families we see get further with structure than with a ban. Games alongside a reliable weekly activity looks very different from games as the only thing on the calendar.

My child says they will hate any class. Is it worth trying?

Often, yes — with the caveat that one visit tells you more than a month of discussion. A first class at Elevate is free and nothing is signed, so the cost of finding out is low.

How long before we know if it is working?

Give it about a month of consistent attendance. Before that you are mostly measuring novelty rather than fit.

My Child Only Wants to Play Video Games — What Can I Do?

My Child Only Wants to Play Video Games. What Can I Do?

Why games hold attention so well, and how to build a real-world alternative your child will actually choose.

Games are designed to deliver constant progress, feedback and social connection. Rather than fighting that, many families find it easier to add an offline activity that offers the same three things on a fixed weekly schedule, then let screen time settle around it.

8 min read

Published August 6, 2026

Updated August 6, 2026

Reviewed by the Elevate Martial Arts instructional team

Key takeaways

Games win on progress, feedback and friendship — an alternative has to offer all three.
Adding a fixed activity usually works better than subtracting screen time first.
Expect resistance in the first two or three weeks; that is not a sign it failed.

Why games are so hard to compete with

A game gives a child visible progress every few minutes, immediate feedback on every attempt, and a group of friends who are already there. Very few offline activities are structured that tightly, which is why "go do something else" rarely lands.

Framing this as a discipline problem tends to make it worse. It is a design problem, and it responds better to a better-designed alternative than to a longer argument.

Add before you subtract

Most families we talk to have tried limits first. Limits work far better once something has taken the place of the removed hours. When nothing has, the child is simply bored, and boredom argues.

Something on a fixed weekly schedule, so it is not renegotiated each time
Something with visible progress markers a child can point to
Something with the same faces each week, so friendships have a chance to form
Something physical enough to shift energy and help the evening wind down

What a realistic first month looks like

Week one is usually curiosity. Weeks two and three are often the hardest — the novelty has worn off and the game is still there. By week four, a child who has been going twice a week generally has one person they look for when they walk in, and that changes the conversation.

Keep the commitment small and fixed rather than large and flexible. Two consistent sessions beat four aspirational ones.

Every child is different. If you are worried about your child's mood, sleep or wellbeing, speak to your pediatrician or a qualified professional — this guide is general educational information only.

Common questions

About the author

Elevate Martial Arts Instructional Team

Coaches, Middletown & Clearlake

Our coaching staff has taught children, teens and adults in Lake County for more than 20 years. Guides in the Learning Center are written from what we see in class each week and reviewed by the instructional team before publishing. They are general educational information, not medical, psychological or legal advice.

About this guide

Written from what Elevate coaches see week to week in Middletown and Clearlake classes.
General educational information for families. No external research is cited and no outcome is promised.
Reviewed by the Elevate Martial Arts instructional team.
General educational information only — not medical, psychological or legal advice.

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